“You’re lucky I’m not your grandmother,” a woman said to my 5-year-old grandson while we were shopping at the dollar store. 

Matt and I, along with his older sister Kate stopped, turned around and stared at her. 

I couldn’t believe that while we were still glaring at her she said it again. “You’re lucky I’m not your grandmother or that basket (with his toy) would be on the floor and we’d be out of here.”

I really wanted to say something mean but thought it best to quietly let her know that Matt has Sensory Processing Disorder and ADHD.

That didn't go so well.

She smugly interrupted me to say that she has children and grandchildren and she "knows all about it.” 

Despite wanting to slap her — which would not have been good for the kids to see …

I told her he was having a bad day, then turned around and walked away. That’s what I tell the kids to do when they get angry, “stop — turn around — and walk away!”

The funny thing is that just two aisles away, another lady had smiled at Matt and even chuckled at how much thought he was putting into picking out the perfect toy that each of our two dogs would like best.

He had also helped Kate pick out two presents for their little brother Christian who wasn’t there. 

Between those two aisles, there had been a display of Halloween decorations that lighted up and made funny noises. Matt picked one out for himself and one for Chris. 

That is where the sensory issues came into play. He was so excited about the flashing lights and the noises the toy made that he could not contain himself. Despite having been told him a few times to shut it off, he kept turning it on. 

I had just stated that if the toy wasn’t in my basket by the count of three, he would not get to keep it. At the count of three the toy was in the basket. That is when the lady decided to degrade my handling of the situation and then refer to her superior wisdom. 

Imagine trying really hard to focus on something, but you can’t, physically or literally — your brain won't cooperate. 

Just ask Matt’s sensei, Tim Gillette at Mixed Martial Arts. He’ll tell you he loves having Matt as a student. He is helping him to focus and teaching him respect, teamwork and self control among many other lessons of life. He believes in him. 

I sure believe in him. 

That lady was right ... Matt is lucky SHE is not his grandmother.